Pain and Pleasure

Okay- here's my Tony Robbin's work for the day.  Feel free to join me if you want...

This session is called Pain and Pleasure- the controlling forces that direct your life.  I'm sharing this with you on the off chance that it helps someone but mainly because writing it out will help cement it in my life.

okay here it goes:  Basically everything we do in our lives is driven by our need to avoid pain and gain pleasure.  Ultimately this lesson is talking about learning to control the motivating forces of pain and pleasure.  With me and Tony so far?  (obviously I'm shortening all this up)

"IF YOU WANT TO CHANGE YOUR BEHAVIOR, YOU MUST FOCUS YOUR ATTENTION ON:
1. how NOT changing your behavior will be more painful than changing it.
2. How changing it will bring you measurable and immediate pleasure.


Here's my homework- (again, feel free to join in)

STEP 1:  Four new actions- What are four new actions I know I should take NOW? 

1. I know I should eat healthier and an appropriate amount

2. I know I need to stay focused on locations for our gym in WeHo

3. I know I need to continue to follow through with this Tony Robbins Program

4. I know I need to buy a mop and a vacuum of some sort b/c my floor is yucky 12 days in

STEP 2: Pain I've associated with following through- what is the pain I've associated with these actions in the past?

1. Tight clothes and shame about being a trainer with a belly AND I HATE being hungry.  Uncomfortable and restless and irritable.

2. Guilt over wasting time AND fear about not getting it done in the 3 months I'm here. 

3. Irritation about spending money on something I clearly feel is important and FEAR about missing out on success.

4. Having to wear slippers b/c the floor needs to be cleaned and it bugs me.


STEP 3: Pleasure I've associated with not following through- what is the pleasure you took from not following through in the past

1. Yummy naughty food as for sure pleasurable and I really enjoy being full.

2. More time to work out, nap, cruise the computer for how to get around in the big city.

3. More time for other stuff- mainly #2's stuff

4. NO more time in the car trying to figure out where to buy the cleaning materials. (pain in the you know where to get to the store, get supplies in the car and then into the apartment and then use them)

STEP 4: Pain if I don't follow through- what will it cost me if I don't follow through?

1. Stress about opening a gym in LA and not looking the part, not having the ultimate energy to run my business, enjoy my workouts and take care of my dogs.

2. It could cost me the opportunity to open down here and change my financial situation. (very painful!!)

3. Everything could be more difficult or maybe not happen OR take longer to happen with opening the gym here and making the personal changes in my body I want to make.

4. Keep wearing slippers- (not really that painful truthfully :)

STEP 5: Pleasure if I do follow through- What are the benefits I will gain by taking action in each of these areas now?  How will it enhance my life?  How will it create greater joy, happiness, success, freedom or pride?

1. Shopping for clothes will be more fun, I will feel more confident as I look for gym space.  I will be able to better lead by example to my clients- more authentic. Getting dressed will be easier, less time and energy.  I will have more energy providing the opportunity for more experiences which creates the opportunity for more joy.  It would be FUN to look as strong as I am.

2. It will be a huge relief to make enough money to pay all my bills on time (even early) INCLUDING my taxes.  It will be GREAT to be able to take a vacation with Rob.  I will LOVE teaching numerous classes with tons of people in every single one of them.  It will be super rewarding to train additional employees.  It will feel really rewarding to help more people enjoy the process of getting stronger and feeling better about their bodies and having their bodies work better for them in their lives.

3.  I already am enjoying how my day feels after the hour of power and I've only done 3 days worth.  I always enjoy learning something new and making healthy changes and this is a GREAT opportunity to grow because it will BRING ME more pleasure instead of why I usually do changes like this which is to AVOID or get out of pain.  Of course to be completely honest I am in some discomfort about possibly moving and making a big leap of faith professionally so that doesn't hurt either.  I want this move if it happens to be successful! :)

4.  I will have a clean floor to walk around on and I will feel more like a decent human being.  (ha!)

on that note, it's time for a nap. That's all the Tony homework for today- more tomorrow.

PS- I did follow through on some other homework from Saturday's workshop and bought myself a calendar and dry erase board.  My goal is to get it hung up today and get started with posting my schedule which will be color coded on priorities (naturally it will be color coordinated.. who do you think is talking here?!?  Office supply store lover #1!